Sex Has Consequences

Contraception. It’s the hot topic right now. But behind all the hype and political posturing is this forgotten fact: Sex has consequences. Always. Contraception doesn’t change that.

While much could be said about certain medical conditions, as well as family planning within marriage, this post is aimed solely at those who are single, engaged, and/or looking for some action.

Are you a single man? Keep it in your pants.

Are you a single woman? Just say “No.”

It’s really that simple.

Women, do you really think he loves you just because he sleeps with you? Seriously? It’s called biology. What’s driving his actions is not his heart. Nor his mind. It’s his libido. You are little more than his sex object if he hasn’t publicly pledged himself to you for life.

Men, do you really think so little of her that you’ll use her without publicly pledging yourself to her for life? Seriously? Grow up. You’re not the stud you think you are. Playing with her emotions shows just how shallow and self-centered you are. You know better.

Sex has consequences. Among them are possible pregnancy (even with contraception), an intimate connection (and too often the heartbreak, guilt, and shame that follows), and sexually transmitted diseases (your partner could be a petri dish of nasty stuff).

So let’s be honest. Sex is a good gift from God. But it is to enjoyed only within marriage, between a man and a woman who have pledged themselves to one another for life. Period. But do not rush into marriage just to have sex, or because your heart is pitter-pattering, or because you think you know what love is. Speak to your pastor and ask him to help the two of you build a rock-solid, Christ-centered foundation for your marriage. Without such a foundation, you are building little more than a house of cards.

Men, learn from Christ. Love your bride. Put her needs first. Be willing to sacrifice and give yourself up for her. Have and hold her. Be faithful to her: for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death parts you, according to God’s holy will.

Women, learn from the Church. Love your husband. Put his needs first. As he sacrifices for you, reciprocate that sacrifice for him. Be faithful to him: for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death parts you, according to God’s holy will.

Sex within marriage. Exclusively. Don’t shrug it off as archaic. It comes from the perfect will and word of the Triune God, whose nature is perfect love!